Lesson #37: San Francisco is a Fun Place to be!

When I was pregnant, my friends and family hosted a baby shower entitled "Have Baby, Will Travel."  And while I understood then that it would be difficult to travel with a baby, Ryan and I made a commitment to try.  I'm proud to say that in his first 17 months, Liam has been to Colorado twice and as of this most recent trip, to San Francisco three times.  It is definitely more difficult to travel with him now then when he was a tiny baby though, but it's worth it to see happy reunions like the one he had with his Aunt Amy at the airport...

After we had lunch and settled into their gorgeous place, we headed to Sports Basement to shop for Amy's birthday as well as to help fulfill Ryan's dream of hiking all around San Francisco with Liam on his back.  Amy found an awesome jacket and Ryan found the king-of-all-backpacks that is certainly fit for our prince!

I think Liam liked it...

That night, Liam tried on Uncle Michael's boots.  He's a "big monkey"!

After Liam fell asleep in the pack n' play for the night (very easily, by the way), the adults were able to really enjoy an amazing birthday dinner for Amy.  Michael worked for hours on the authentic and yummy Mexican meal...

Amy and Ryan enjoyed a pre-dinner cocktail or two (I had water).

Here were just a few of the tasty dishes that Michael made.  Yes, they tasted as good as they look.

The next day after a good night's sleep for Liam, Ryan packed him up in the backpack and took a "stroll" down to Chrissy Field Beach.  It was only a few miles:)  And it was windy... can you tell?

It was time for a picnic on the beach.  Amy and I picked up some food and then headed down to meet Liam and Ryan.  Michael rode down on his motorcycle.  I love this photo of the three of them.

I think the walk tuckered Daddy out.

After lunch it was time for our little monkey to play on the beach.

I remember thinking how lucky we were while this family photo was being taken in front of Alcatraz on this gorgeous day, because it was about 107 degrees back in Kansas City!

I love this picture of our little independent guy taking off on his own.

It's fun playing with Mommy's earrings!

Look!  I got them!

Here, look up close.

Cutest "beach bum" ever!

This picture makes me smile because it was just one of those captured moments.  A quiet, zen moment between Amy and Liam.  And I can just picture them having these special times together every time they see each other.  I think they will be really close, telling each other secrets and traveling together and just loving the little things in life, like a picnic day on the beach.

Liam had a little sand for dessert.

That evening we put Liam to sleep, made sure that Tessa the babysitter (loaned to us from Cali, who lets Tessa take care of her a couple times a week) was settled in, and took off for an adults-only dinner at The House of Prime Rib.  It was fantastic!  I had, you guessed it, the prime rib.  In fact all of us did.  I mean, what else would you have?  It was a nice night out and we had some good laughs.  I even took after my mother and gnawed on the bone :)

On Friday we headed up to Muir Woods.  This was the day I was most excited for.  Muir Woods has great memories for me.  The first time I was ever there was with my sister.  We returned another time and then when Ryan and I came out to visit, we went together.  It was fitting, therefore, that we all go together for Liam's first trip.  We had a great time!

Michael was Liam's driver for most of the tour.

But Amy was the tour guide.

This tree is a lot bigger than the ones at home!

This is my favorite family shot from the trip... he's so happy in the woods!

Daddy and Liam took the term "tree hugging" to a brand new level.

Look at my guys...

Couldn't resist... this one looks like an ad for Baby REI or something.

These are my favorite shots from the day.  I love these stolen moments with Uncle Michael.  They are two peas in a pod here in the woods.  That image I wrote about earlier where I can picture Amy and Liam in the future... well, it's the same for Michael.  I think they will cook together, they will walk Cali together, and they will be buddies.  Good buddies :)

Can't you just picture the three of them together?

The afternoon wrapped up with our first trip ever to In-N-Out Burger... the satisfied look on Liam's face mirrored my own.  Yum!

That evening Amy and Michael babysat so Ryan and I could have a date.  We saw a movie and had a nice dinner at a Thai restaurant.  Liam was asleep in bed by 7:45pm and all was well.  It was a great gift that they gave us and we really appreciated it.

Our last full day in San Fran was spent riding the cable car down to the Ferry Building for market.  I had never been on one so it was especially fun.

We go to the Ferry Building every chance we get in San Fran.  Their fresh fruit samples were the hit of the day for Liam and Ryan.  Notice Liam's thoughtful pose, checking out the produce.

Later that afternoon, the Big Moment had arrived.  I got Liam all dressed in his biker outfit so he could "ride" with Michael.  We were all very excited.  

All of us, except for Liam.

Didn't he ever see Easy Rider?  Oh well, maybe next time.

That afternoon Ryan took Liam on a MAJOR walk while Amy and I were getting mani/pedis at Silk.  In the time it took to get our paws and claws done, they walked almost 6 miles through the Presidio, around the Presidio, to the edge of the Golden Gate, and up the Lion's Steps!  God, it's nice to be married to a man who likes to hike and be outside and do it all with a 30 pound toddler on his back!

Finally, as the trip came to a close, I watched Liam do what he seemed to like to do best... watch for the dog Cali.  

Sometimes he watched for her coming down the hall.  

Sometimes he watched for her coming down the street...

But mostly, he liked to just play with her.

And follow her...                                                          

And bring her the "boney" she loves...

And watch her eat.

A last night toast to a great trip had by all! (again, I had water)

I'm wrapping this entry up now, tired because I started back to school with students today.  It's been a little rough starting back this year, and looking through these pictures, I understand why.  This was an amazing trip- one of our very best.  And it represented all of the good times this summer brought with it.  Thank you, Amy and Michael and Cali, for the laughter and love, the beach and the woods, the dinners and the breaks.  We love you so much!

Now, get ready for our family of four to come out next time!  San Francisco really is a fun place to be!  Lesson well learned.

Lesson #36- Verbal Ability is Overrated and Our Little Girl Will Be Worth It

Months ago, Liam said his first two words very clearly.  They were "on" and "off." It was one of those moments, the kind you will never forget.  I remember it well- we were in his room and he was playing with the remote that controls the lamps, and when I turned them on, he said, "ON." And when I turned them off, he said... well, you get the idea.

He hasn't said much since.  Not clearly anyway.  And he turned 17 months old two days ago.

The other day I googled "Language Delays in Toddlers".  I was alone at the computer, Liam was asleep and Ryan was at work.  It was no coincidence that I was alone- I am a little embarrassed at my overreaction, but when it comes to Liam, I would rather be laughed at and embarrassed than risk not being on top of what's best for that little guy, so, I googled "Language Delays in Toddlers."

The many, many links that popped up included checklist after checklist.  Here is an example of one from www.babycenter.com :  "Warning Signs of Speech Delays in Toddlers"

12 to 18 months

at 12 months, doesn't use gestures such as waving or shaking her head by 12 months, isn't practicing using at least a couple of consonants (p, b, etc.) by 12 months, isn't somehow communicating to you when she needs help with something at 15 months, doesn't understand and respond to words such as "no" and "bye-bye" by 15 months, can't say at least one to three words by 15 months, doesn't say "mama" or "dada" at 16 months, doesn't point to body parts when asked at 18 months, isn't saying at least 15 words

This made me feel a lot better.  I'll tell you why.  

• Liam has been waving and blowing kisses since he was about 5 months old.  Actually I suspect he was blowing kisses in the womb.
• He has been saying "d" consonant sounds since before he was 9 months old.
• While I wish he would say, "Mommy, please help me with ______________", he does say, "Eh, eh, eh" over and over until I help him out, so I guess that means he is "communicating to you (me) when he needs help with something."
• I am sure that he understands when I say "no" to him- but I am just as sure that he ignores it anyway :)  
• In addition to the "on" and "off" that I mentioned earlier, he does have other words now.  He says "Dada" and "Mama" and "Woof" and "Thanks".  But the one I am most proud of is his recent new word.... "Cheers"!  Now of course, these aren't particularly clear, but we know what he means.
• (see above bullet point)
• He's been pointing to body parts most of his life.  His favorite new one is his penis.  He knows where it is, what it's called and as of now, believes it's main function is to entertain him by pushing in on the tip of it whenever he is naked.  He's a guy.  What are you gonna do?  Speaking of body parts, he also knows fingers, tummy, hair, head, ears and nose.  But only other people's noses, he hasn't quite figured out where his own is.  He has it confused with his ear.  But still, the kid is anatomically smart.
• We have one more month to worry about the last bulleted warning sign.

So you can understand why this made me feel better.  It went on to suggest that reading is by far the best way to encourage language development.   Sometimes we ask friends to join us for reading time, like Reid Scholtes, 5 1/2 months Liam's junior who says a few words himself.    

But sometimes, reading is just a thing best done alone.

A couple of days after the googling incident, Ryan and I attended a friend's wedding.  There was a pediatrician at the table.  I would like to tell you that I ignored her profession, did not pester her regarding toddler language delay and stuck to subjects like the bridesmaids' dresses and the weather.  But I didn't.

Happily, she confirmed what the checklist had already told me.  Liam is fine.  His language is fine.  And soon, probably very soon, he will wake up and just start talking non stop.

The next day, he said "Cheers" for the first time!  Good boy.  Verbal ability IS overrated.  Lesson well learned.

PS:  I promised myself when I started this blog that it would be authentic, no matter what.  So now I feel like I should include the details of the pregnancy with Lily as well.  In a nutshell, here it is.

Weeks 1-20 

- Included nausea without vomiting, moodiness so bad that I am just grateful Ryan didn't leave and only return when I promised to stop crying, and a shocking lack of cravings except for macaroni and cheese (but probably only because it was one of the few things I could eat that didn't make me feel sick).

- A 3 pound weight gain, the only benefit of no cravings

- Flutterings beginning around week 14, with major "kicks" around week 16.

- And, of course, daily feelings of gratitude and blessing that our little girl was cooking along just fine and a sigh of relief after every test and ultrasound that confirmed that.

Week 20, day 5

- My world changed when my sister, Emily, suggested that I give up milk in the morning on an empty stomach, thinking that what I was feeling was lactose intolerance.  The thought of waking up the next  (and perhaps every) day without my daily skim milk fix worried me but I figured what the hell, it might help.  And it did!  I haven't been sick since.  And I even have tested the theory with an occasional glass in the late afternoon on a full stomach without any side effects.  Thanks Em!

Weeks 20-25 (current)

- One more pound gained (still very good they tell me), although my growing belly by the day is going to make that trend impossible to continue.

- Kicks that Ryan can feel by putting his hand on my belly.

- An old symptom from my first pregnancy has reared its ugly head again- carpel tunnel syndrome.  That's right everyone, the numb hands are back, especially when I sleep.  But so far, it's not too bad.  Just annoying.  And Ryan is probably annoyed when my shaking of my hands in the middle of the night wakes him up :)

- A new, not so fun symptom has begun.  Apparently, Lily is choosing to hang out in the lower part of my uterus, putting a lot of pressure on my pelvis.  I wake up in the morning feeling like I've ridden the frickin' Tour de France (and I'm no Lance Armstrong)!  It's particularly bad while I sleep (so I don't very well), when I first wake up and if I've been walking or sitting too long.

But even though it's been a little rough this time around, I feel bad complaining.  I am blessed.  I am healthy.  Liam and Lola and Ryan are healthy.  And Lily is healthy.  That's all that matters.  

So while the rest of the country is focused on the Elections on Tuesday, November 6th, we will be meeting our little girl.  Scheduled C-Section at 12:30 PM already on the books.  And I know that our little girl will be worth it.  Lesson well learned.